The Big O

By Oloni

The Millennial Sex & Relationships Bible

Wellbeing | Lifestyle
21% funded
162 supporters
Funding
Support this project
Make The Big O a reality – choose your reward below.
$15 
62 pledges

Digital

A copy of the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$20 
17 pledges

Double D

eBook and your name in the back of the book. With this pledge, you'll be sharing the love and buying an extra eBook edition for someone who can't afford a copy.
Choose this reward
$35  + shipping
39 pledges

Hardback

First edition hardback, the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$45  + shipping
2 pledges

Signed Hardback

Signed first edition hardback, eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$45 
9 pledges

eBook & T

A 'Consent is Sexy' T-shirt, the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$70  + shipping
3 pledges

'Consent is Sexy' T-shirt

A 'Consent is Sexy' T-shirt Plus a first edition hardback, the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$75  + shipping
4 pledges

Good Vibrations

VESTA is the newest sex toy brought to you by Oloni. It is a sleek, powerful, lightweight vibrator with multiple speeds. Plus a first edition hardback, eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$85  + shipping
2 pledges

Read With a Friend

Two signed first edition hardbacks (shipped together), the eBook and two names in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$110  + shipping

Advice

Personal advice column response from Oloni (maximum 500-word response). Plus a signed first edition hardback, eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$125  + shipping
1 pledge

Launch Party

Two tickets to the London launch party, plus a copy of the first edition hardback signed by Oloni, the eBook and your name in the back of the book. Travel not included; location TBC.
Choose this reward
$155  + shipping
1 pledge

Cover Art Print

A fine art print of the cover artwork, plus two tickets to the London launch party, a signed first edition hardback, plus the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$245  + shipping

Book Club Visit

Five signed first editions of the hardback for your book club, plus a visit by Oloni to your book club (in person if possible or via Skype), the eBook and five names in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$1,210  + shipping

Patron

Your name printed in the front of the book thanking you for your contribution, plus a signed first edition hardback, the eBook and your name in the back of the book. [Only 3 available]
Choose this reward
$6,050  + shipping

Corporate Patron

A special full-page dedication for your organisation printed in the front of every edition of the book, 10 copies of the signed first edition hardback. [Only 2 available]
Choose this reward

Sold out!

$25  + shipping
20 pledges

Hardback (early bird)

First edition hardback, the eBook and your name in the back of the book. [Only 20 available]

Frequently Asked Questions

Where can I get my book delivered to?

We deliver to most countries worldwide. Enter your delivery address during checkout and we'll display the shipping cost when we know where to send your book.

How do supporter names work?

Every person who pledges to help to make a book gets their name included in a supporter section as a thank you. If you want to add a different name, this can be changed in your account after you have completed your pledge.

Still have a question? Visit our Help Centre to find out more.

According to recent studies, millennials are now the most tolerant generation when it comes to sex and sexuality.

We have been branded as the "Hook-up Generation", even though reports have found that millennials are having less sex than older generations*.

However, due to misinformation on the Internet, grey areas in relationships and a new ‘swipe left/right’ dating culture, millennials have been left confused and even anxious about the world of sex, consent and intimacy.

This book will give practical and often, personal information about a wide range of relationship situations in the context of this modern era. But most importantly, the book will have an inclusive nature that reflects what our society is actually like.

In The Big O I’ll give my thoughts on whether or not it’s ‘morally’ right to have a sponsor (otherwise known as a “Sugar Daddy”) and also include the experiences from “Sugar Babies”.

•From faking orgasms, to being too afraid to talk about contraception, STI’s, consent between partners and even pornography.

Hoes and freaks?

Are women able to live their best lives or do we still have quite far to go as a society to maintain a sex positive attitude towards women.

Being a "girlfriend-fluffer" and knowing just exactly when to leave a "situationship".

Are monogamous relationships overrated and should we just accept that some of us were built to be with more than one person?

I’ll also be taking a look at the LGBTQ community as I interview different people from various cultural backgrounds who speak about their dating and sexual experiences.

The Big O will be not only be debunking myths and "sexual fake news". It will be an essential tool for empowering young adults to have fullfilling relationships, free of guilt, anxiety and shame.

This timely book is the book I wish I had growing up.

My book prides itself in being a shame-free, sex-positive guide for anyone who is curious about sex, relationships and sexuality in this vibrant and varied millenial age.

*source: http://newscenter.sdsu.edu/sdsu_newscenter/news_story.aspx?sid=75592

Quick select rewards

$15 
62 pledges

Digital

A copy of the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
$35  + shipping
39 pledges

Hardback

First edition hardback, the eBook and your name in the back of the book.
Choose this reward
  • Dami Olonisakin avatar

    Dami Olonisakin

    Dami Olonisakin – aka @Oloni – a twenty-something award-winning blogger from London. She is also the Founder and Editor of simplyoloni.com, an online platform for discussions on sex and relationships. Dami is a relationship coach and has given over thousands of women all over the world advice on their love and sex lives through phone calls, emails and her popular "Ask Olon"i page. She has been featured in publications such as The Sun, The Daily Mail, Cosmopolitan and also been named as part of BBC’s Girls’ Champions.


    Dami writes about almost everything, but specialises in sexuality and relationships. She was voted the Best Sex and Relationships Blogger of 2015 by Cosmopolitan UK Magazine and her blog was voted top one of the UK’s top Dating blogs of 2017.


    Her past books and blogs have helped empower several young women to rethink the situation they’re involved in, both romantically and sexually.


    Oloni also hosts Laid Bare, a sex-positive live show aimed at women who are opinionated and want to have their say on sexuality.


    You’ve probably also seen her #DateChallenge, which went viral in early 2018, where  she encouraged women to ask men they were interested in on dates – with some very impressive results!

  • Oloni has written 1 private update. You can pledge to get access to them all.

  • These people are helping to fund The Big O.

    User avatar

    E Dru

    User avatar

    sophie coates

    User avatar

    sabbah sarah

    User avatar

    Habeeb Akande

    User avatar

    Eve Adler

    User avatar

    Hibatallah Abdulaziz

    User avatar

    Aoife Drury

    User avatar

    Monica Mwangi

    User avatar

    Mireille Iraguha

    User avatar

    Shan Boodram

    User avatar

    Yemi Oyefuwa

    User avatar

    Dwain Reid

    User avatar

    Rachel Curran

    User avatar

    Teza Simukulwa

    User avatar

    Broken Pussy Podcast

    User avatar

    Annabel De Souza

    User avatar

    AJ Onifade

    User avatar

    Mo Badejo

    User avatar

    Katie Ryan

    User avatar

    Cara Usher

    User avatar

    Sophie Newton

    User avatar

    sanny gongora

    View more