An excerpt from

Success on Your Terms

David McQueen

What does success actually mean?

It never ceases to amaze me.
I speak to adult audiences in businesses, local government and at conferences.
I speak to teachers and educators around the world.
I speak to thousands of teenage students and I ask the same question every time.

“How many people in this room want to be successful. Raise your hands?”

By and large the whole room puts their hands up in the air.

“OK, by the same action, how many in the room are already successful?”

What do you think happens?
Most people keep their hand up right?

Regardless of the audience most people drop their hands.
Even in a room of very successful leaders and executives, the hands drop.

In the UK this can be put down to the British attitude, but the fact that it happens around the world, means it’s not just an exclusive British thing. People just don’t want to admit they are successful, unless they have reached a certain, sometimes unattainable level in their life.

Personally, I think that’s crap and a small minded way of looking at success.
Success is a journey not a destination.

Think about it. From school, you have done things that you would be proud of. Legally, and illegally. Things that pushed you outside of your normal boundaries. Whether winning a contest, acing an exam, leading a team, speaking in public and a host of other things that you have done and do.

If you are working, you probably landed your job based on your experience, your qualifications and attitude, or probably a combination of all three. Heck, even if you have a minimal amount of talent and landed a job through your contacts, the fact is you still have a modicum of success. Even if it is temporary.

Look at your school record.
Look at your CV or resume, or whatever you call it.
Look at your digital profile on Linkedin or Xing or whatever business networking tool you use.

At some point they scream out something that makes you a half decent professional that others wouldn’t mind working with.

The problem is, not enough people see this as success.
To coin a phrase you are so damn busy focusing on the destination you don’t stop to look at the flowers and the beauty around you.

Maybe it’s time to get a grip and refocus on how you see Success.