Once you tell people you are expecting twins or more you will be quite the centre of attention. During the final months you will be very tired, very large and may get a little bit tetchy with the repeated comments about your size and the arrival date. Get used to it, it only increases once they arrive. People take a lot of interest in twins and can ask quite private questions - one woman at a bus stop asked Louise “were they natural?” to which she replied with a blow-by-blow account of her vaginal birth only to realise she meant were they conceived by IVF.
But there is something remarkable and exciting about twins and the community seems to feel this. Once they are born, you will be stopped a lot and asked whether they are twins and how you manage and asked if they are identical or not and so on; be prepared and think about what information you want to share, and how politely to inform them, for example, that no, boy girl twins can’t be identical.
I love the knowing look of another twin parent out in the park – the look that says – “I KNOW how hard the work is and how intense it can be, RESPECT to you.” I love it when mums of older twins say “Well done! You’re doing a great job.”
This chapter covers getting ready for your babies’ arrival: equipment including hospital bags, twin support groups, reading and resources, the medical process leading up to birth, how to prepare those around you and where to get help. It also covers emotional support around difficult situations.
What’s it really like?
Finding out you’re having twins is an incredible feeling, being pregnant with twins is a slog, particularly at the end. Frankly you’ll be sicker, more tired and in more pain than most other pregnant women you’ve known and the last three months are endless. Save up the box sets, put your feet up and try to enjoy doing nothing as much as possible. Read books, join relevant Facebook groups, post questions on multiple mum threads on forums or do some online karaoke, whatever gets you through it. Do not worry about how many chocolate biscuits you’re eating and try to stay gently active for as long as is comfortable. Take pictures and marvel at your size and what an amazing job your body is doing rather than worry about how your stomach will ever look anything like normal again (you might be one of the random lucky ones).